There are so many things that heal.
Sometimes words are enough to cover you and wash away a bad thought or a tough moment. The speaker’s lullabies softly swaddle you back to baseline. Sometimes they come from caring friends, sometimes a stranger. and sometimes straight from the boombox. Words can be like a candle in the dark, illuminating things you knew were there but couldn’t remember just how far away or in what direction they lie.
Other times we need action to fill our emptiness, our sadness, our shortcomings. We forget how to love ourselves, why we began this journey or how to put one foot in front of the other to keep ourselves moving. For that we rely on friends to step up to the plate and show us how to do it. We watch them first and then repeat what was modeled. We use training wheels and we need reinforcers when we do something right. We need a lot of reminders and a lot of attention. This stage makes us feel vulnerable and inadequate because we think we should be better, stronger, and less dependent. But, we have all been there and we will surely return. It is a place where we learn about ourselves and the company we prefer to keep.
Physical activity and exploration heal when the body is drained and the soul has forgotten how to take flight.
Quiet and solitude heal when our thoughts are more tangled than a bag full of necklaces and chains. We crave alone time to center ourselves.
Crowds and laughter heal when we have forgotten that there is joy in every situation.
Routines and predictability heal the lost and confused.
We are all seeking something. We all have healing that needs attention and often times we lack the awareness to ask for exactly what we need so we rely on those around us to help. I am INSANELY lucky to have people, scattered all over the country, who pick me up when I am down, who help me put my pieces back together. People who fill me with words that I could never tell myself and seem to never run out of steam for the innumerable times they have to remind me I am worth it. Find yourself a friend or two who sees past the bullshit and right into the heart of you. When you find someone like that let them know and don’t ever let the light fade. Spend the time to genuinely love and care for others and you will discover that giving yourself away ends up filling your life, rewarding you, 10 times more.
There are so many things that heal and the best of them is friendship.