Why are inside ouchies so much harder to heal? Outside ouchies are easily spotted, assessed and treated – even the really bad ones. Inside ouchies hide from us. They fester and grow. They tangle themselves with other things that live inside us like our trust, hope, reasoning, and sense of right and wrong.
Even when we find an inside ouchie they aren’t simple to diagnose and cure. They are shape-shifters, always eluding us and leading us down dead-end paths. We think we’ve determined the source of pain so we attempt to heal the wound with a variety of approaches: drinking, singing, praying, counseling, medication, reflection, change of scenery, change of pace, and the nastiest tasting remedy of all, burying or excusing our feelings.
Inside ouchies don’t present themselves right away like outside ouchies. They develop over time. They are a product of repetition of experiences, words and emotions. This process can take years to manifest. By the time we catch onto them they have spread their venom to numerous parts of our soul. There, they take hold of anything that may trigger a memory of those experiences. They are cobwebs, clinging to everything in an old, dusty shed.
Maybe we need to clean our sheds more often. We can organize our tools and sweep the floors. We should take out the trash and make the unwanted items disappear.
Cleaning the shed is rarely a one-woman job, enlist the help of friends. Plus, it’s more fun to sing along and dance to the music in the company of someone else.